Healing LDS Marriages by Reconnecting to Divine Feminine and Masculine Energies
In a world that often pushes us toward busyness, achievement, and performance, it can be easy to lose sight of the sacredness embedded in our identities as men and women. Within LDS theology, gender is not a social construct but an eternal characteristic of our divine nature. The Family Proclamation states, “All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.” Yet even among faithful Latter-day Saint couples, many marriages experience friction, emotional disconnection, or even crisis—not because partners lack faith, but because they’ve unknowingly drifted away from the beautiful and complementary energies of masculinity and femininity that God designed to bring wholeness.
What Are Masculine and Feminine Energies?
Masculine and feminine energies are not simply stereotypes or outdated gender roles. They are complementary spiritual patterns woven into the eternal identity of sons and daughters of God. While both men and women can embody aspects of each, there is a natural harmony when a man leans into his masculine strength and leadership, and a woman leans into her feminine power of nurturing and connection. These energies mirror divine attributes: creation, protection, receptivity, intuition, courage, softness, action, and stillness.
Masculine energy is often associated with purpose, provision, protection, structure, and leadership. Feminine energy is aligned with nurturing, creativity, intuition, beauty, and emotional presence. When these divine energies are honored and balanced in a marriage, they act as a powerful force for healing, connection, and growth.
But when these energies are distorted or repressed—whether due to cultural conditioning, trauma, or simply the pressures of modern life—marital dynamics often suffer. The good news is: healing is not only possible, but divinely designed.
Why LDS Couples May Drift Apart
Even in temple-sealed marriages, disconnection can creep in. Sometimes it comes through subtle resentment, a lack of intimacy, or the stress of parenting and callings. For others, it’s more pronounced: arguments that don’t resolve, emotional withdrawal, or feeling more like roommates than eternal companions.
For many LDS couples, the misunderstanding of gender roles can create tension. The restored gospel teaches that men and women are equal partners, yet also emphasizes divine roles that are distinct. In the pursuit of equality, some couples try to downplay their differences rather than honoring them. Others overemphasize hierarchy and suppress the voice of one partner.
Either extreme can result in a marriage out of alignment with divine design.
Reconnecting to Feminine Energy: A Gift to the Marriage
Many LDS women have been culturally conditioned to “do it all”—serve, mother, work, lead, and support their husbands—often while suppressing their own desires, beauty, rest, and receptivity. This results in burnout and emotional distance.
Reclaiming feminine energy does not mean becoming passive or weak. In fact, feminine strength is fierce. It is the power of Eve, the mother of all living, who chose wisdom and growth even at a cost. Feminine energy heals by softening control, inviting intimacy, and restoring emotional connection.
When a woman reconnects to her feminine essence, she becomes more emotionally available, creative, and radiant. She learns to rest in her being, rather than constantly performing or fixing. She invites her husband—not with nagging or pressure—but with warmth, trust, and open-hearted presence. This shifts the energy in the home and invites masculine energy to rise.
Reconnecting to Masculine Energy: A Call to Rise
Many LDS men, under the weight of spiritual responsibility, may feel overwhelmed, passive, or disconnected from their emotions. Others might lean too far into control or rigidity, forgetting that true priesthood power flows from meekness, not dominance.
Reclaiming masculine energy is about leading with love, presence, and purpose. It’s about protecting—not just physically—but emotionally and spiritually. A man anchored in his divine masculinity offers safety, direction, and strength. He takes initiative—not to dominate—but to serve.
When a man rises in this way, it awakens trust and respect in his wife. She feels safe to soften. And in turn, his own heart is nourished by her emotional, spiritual, and physical availability.
The Dance of Polarity
Healthy marriages thrive on polarity—the magnetic attraction between masculine and feminine energies. This isn’t about rigid roles but about honoring the natural dynamic of giver and receiver, initiator and nurturer, action and being. When both spouses lean into the energy God gave them, they experience a renewed spark, emotionally and physically.
In LDS theology, we understand that “neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 11:11). We were created to be interdependent—not just in logistics or raising children—but in a spiritual and energetic dance.
Healing Begins with the Individual
If you find yourself longing for deeper connection in your marriage, don’t wait for your spouse to change. Healing begins when you begin to reconnect with your God-given energy.
For women, that may look like:
Making time for rest and creativity.
Honoring emotions and expressing needs vulnerably.
Releasing the need to control outcomes.
Trusting God and your husband with open-hearted faith.
For men, that may include:
Leading spiritually with confidence and humility.
Creating safety through emotional presence.
Taking initiative in planning, prayer, and connection.
Grounding yourself in purpose and vision.
As you do this personal work, you send an invitation—not a demand—for your spouse to respond. Often, when one partner shifts, the other rises to meet them. This can take some time and can feel like real vulnerability and rejection for either party. Specifically in the case in the more action-prone partner,, the Lord invites us to lead out in this higher and holier way of living in ”patience and long-suffering.”